Healing your inner child: 3 secrets to rediscovering yourself

Feeling disconnected from yourself? Let's explore the path to healing your inner child to release past hurts. This article shares 3 practical tips to help you comfort your emotions, nurture your soul, and rediscover the joy of living freely. Don't miss this opportunity to understand yourself better and live a happier, more fulfilling life every day.

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Did you know that, according to many psychological studies, over 70% of negative emotions in adults are related to unresolved childhood experiences? That's why more and more people are looking for ways to heal your inner child – a quiet journey that can completely change the way you live and feel.

The "inner child" is not an abstract concept. It's the collection of memories, emotions, and needs that existed when you were young – still subtly influencing how you love, get angry, fear, or feel confident today. When this part is hurt or neglected, you can easily fall into stress, lose connection with yourself, or repeat old emotional patterns.

This article will help you understand the nature of the inner child, and provide simple, practical, and easy-to-apply ways to heal your inner child in daily life. When you learn to turn inward and nurture that profound part of yourself, you not only heal the past – but also unlock a lighter, more resilient version of yourself in the present.

Secret 1: How to reconnect with your inner child

Step 1: How to reconnect with your inner child

Reconnect with childhood to heal emotions

  • One of the simple but effective ways to heal your inner child is to revisit positive childhood memories.
  • Spend 10-15 minutes writing down things that used to make you happy: games, food, favorite activities.
  • This helps you re-identify the original source of emotions – the foundation for emotional healing and positive energy regeneration.

Recall beautiful memories to understand yourself

  • Close your eyes and recall moments when you felt happy, safe, or free.
  • Focus on the feelings rather than the details: how you laughed, how light you felt.
  • This is an important step in the journey of connecting with your inner child, helping you understand why you react in certain ways today.

Actively re-experience things you once loved

  • Try bringing old activities back into your current life:
    • Play sports like soccer, basketball, or any sport you once enjoyed
    • Take nature walks, have light picnics to rekindle a sense of discovery
    • Coloring or simple creative activities
  • These small actions help reactivate innocence – a crucial element in psychological healing.

Allow yourself to "play" without judgment

  • Try role-playing, imagining, or doing "childish" things like dressing up, storytelling, or playing make-believe.
  • Don't worry if it's "mature" or not – because this is how you nurture the forgotten part of yourself.
  • This step helps you love yourself again naturally and without pressure.

Indulge yourself with small joys

  • Eat foods you once loved: candies, cakes, mom's cooking, or dishes linked to childhood memories
  • Reread old books, especially children's stories or fantasy
  • These experiences help create a sense of security – a core element in healing your inner child

Maintain a weekly connection habit

  • Choose 1-2 simple activities and repeat them weekly
  • No need to do a lot, just consistently to create a sustainable connection
  • Over time, you will find yourself feeling lighter, less stressed, and understanding yourself more deeply

Step 2: Identify your inner child

Understand who your “inner child” is

  • To heal your inner child, the first step is to clearly identify what "type of child" you carry within you.
  • Everyone has a different childhood, but they often fall into a few familiar emotional patterns.
  • When correctly identified, you will find it easier to build a pathway for emotional healing and more effective behavioral change.

Determine your emotional development stage

  • Ask yourself: how do you usually react when rejected, abandoned, or unacknowledged?
  • These reactions often don't come from the present, but from a "younger version" still inside you.
  • Understanding this emotional stage helps you connect with your inner child more accurately.

Identify the "abandoned child" type

  • Often appears in people who lacked attention, or experienced separation, or coldness in the family
  • Common signs:
    • Fear of abandonment in relationships
    • Feeling lonely even when with others
    • Easily insecure, lacking a sense of safety
  • This type needs psychological healing by rebuilding a sense of being loved and secure.

Identify the "forgotten playful child" type

  • This is a positive part but is often neglected by adults as they grow up
  • Common signs:
    • Rarely allows oneself to play or relax
    • Always feels guilty when resting or doing what one enjoys
    • Life lacks excitement and creativity
  • Awakening this part helps you love yourself again and rebalance your life.

Identify the "fearful child" type

  • Often formed from an environment with much criticism or high expectations
  • Common signs:
    • Anxiety when not recognized
    • Fear of making mistakes, fear of failure, easily self-doubting
    • Dependent on others' approval
  • This type needs healing of your inner child through inner understanding and self-acceptance.

Create a "healing map" for yourself

  • After identifying, record:
    • Which type you primarily belong to
    • Situations that trigger strong emotions
    • Unmet emotional needs
  • This is the foundation for you to gradually heal your emotions, instead of reacting to old habits

Step 3: Write a letter to heal your inner child

Understand the purpose of letter writing

  • Writing a letter is a direct way to heal your inner child, helping you dialogue with the deep emotional part that has long been neglected.
  • This is not writing to "someone else," but a way to reconnect with yourself authentically and safely.
  • Many people find that after a few times of writing, they feel lighter and clearer about their emotions.

Start with honesty and gentleness

  • Write as if you are talking to your younger self; no need for perfect wording
  • You can start with: "I know there were times I forgot about you..."
  • If you feel guilty, apologize – this is an important step in emotional healing and rebuilding inner trust

Adjust content according to your "inner child" type

  • If you are the fearful child type:
    • Reassure yourself that you are grown up and can protect yourself
    • Emphasize that mistakes do not diminish your worth
  • If you are the abandoned child type:
    • Affirm that you will always be there for yourself
    • Write clearly: "I will not abandon you anymore" to create a sense of security
  • If you are the forgotten playful child type:
    • Promise to make time for joy and freedom
    • Remind yourself that you deserve to enjoy life, not just exist

Keep promises with small actions

  • After writing, choose a specific action to take:
    • Take time to rest without feeling guilty
    • Do something you used to love as a child
  • This helps the process of connecting with your inner child not just be about emotion, but become real change

Maintain the habit of writing to nurture the connection

  • You can write weekly or when emotions become heavy
  • It doesn't need to be long, just consistent and sincere
  • Over time, you will realize you understand yourself better and your emotional responses become more stable

Step 4: Create an inner healing space

Understand why a "safe space" is needed

  • To heal your inner child, you need to create a space safe enough for emotions to be expressed.
  • The "child" part of you is often very sensitive, easily hurt, and tends to hide if it feels judged.
  • When you create a sense of safety, the process of emotional healing will happen more naturally and deeply.

Let go of the thought of being "weak" when connecting with yourself

  • Many people avoid it, thinking that turning inward is a sign of weakness
  • In reality, acknowledging and facing your emotions is a form of inner strength
  • This is an important step to connect with your inner child without psychological barriers

Create a quiet space to listen to yourself

  • Choose an undisturbed period (5-10 minutes each day)
  • Sit quietly, breathe slowly, and turn your attention inward
  • You don't need to do anything complicated, just allow yourself to "be there" with your emotions.

Gentle communication with your "inner child"

  • Try whispering or writing down phrases like:
    • "I'm here and ready to listen to you."
    • "You can share anything, I won't judge."
  • Though it sounds simple, this is how you access your subconscious and rebuild inner trust.

Approach with patience and gentleness

  • Imagine you are getting to know a sensitive little creature: it takes time to build trust.
  • Don't force emotions to appear immediately.
  • Gentleness and consistency will help you heal your inner child sustainably.

Maintain habits to create a stable foundation

  • Repeat this practice daily or several times a week.
  • You will gradually feel your true emotions, thoughts, and needs more clearly.
  • This is an important foundation for developing peace and deeper self-understanding.

Step 5: Listen to emotions to heal

Understand the role of emotions in healing

  • To heal your inner child, you need to start by identifying your emotions daily.
  • Current emotions—whether positive or negative—often stem from childhood experiences.
  • When you understand this origin, emotional healing will become clearer and more purposeful.

Recognize emotions in the present moment

  • Throughout the day, stop a few times and ask yourself: "What am I feeling?"
  • No need for deep analysis, just name the emotion: sad, anxious, happy, stressed...
  • This is a basic step to help you connect with your inner child instead of reacting out of unconscious habit.

Name emotions to understand the problem correctly

  • When you can name an emotion, you're halfway there.
  • For example:
    • It's not just "discomfort," but could be "feeling abandoned."
    • It's not just "pressure," but could be "fear of not being good enough."
  • Naming it correctly helps you address the specific need to heal your inner child.

Observe recurring emotional patterns

  • Notice situations that trigger strong or familiar reactions in you.
  • Ask yourself: "Is this feeling familiar? When have I felt this way before?"
  • This is how you trace back to the roots, where your "inner child" is speaking.

Do not judge your own emotions

  • Don't rush to label any emotion as "right" or "wrong."
  • All emotions are signals that need to be heard.
  • This acceptance is a crucial foundation for psychological healing.
  • Maintain a daily "emotional check-in" habit

    • Spend 2-3 minutes each time, several times a day.
    • You can quickly jot it down on paper or in your phone.
    • Over time, you will understand yourself better and react more calmly.

    Step 6: Control the negative inner voice

    Understand what the "inner critic" is

    • When you want to heal your inner child, you'll soon notice a big barrier: the judgmental voice in your head.
    • It often tells you that you're "too old," "don't be weak," or "don't do something silly."
    • In reality, this is a mechanism formed in childhood to protect yourself, but it unintentionally hinders emotional healing.

    Identify when the "negative voice" appears

    • Pay attention to repetitive thoughts like:
      • "I'm not good enough."
      • "I shouldn't feel this way."
      • "I'm doing something meaningless."
    • Identification helps you separate yourself from the thought, instead of being controlled by it when connecting with your inner child.

    Understand that this voice has also been hurt

    • The critical voice is not an enemy, but a part that has been disappointed or hurt.
    • It tries to control you so you won't be hurt again.
    • When you understand this, you can heal your inner child more gently, instead of fighting against yourself.

    Respond with understanding and calm

    • Instead of staying silent or believing it, "answer" back:
      • "I understand why you're worried."
      • "I know you're trying to protect me."
      • "But I'm okay now, I can take care of myself."
    • This is how you re-establish emotional control.

    Allow yourself to do "childish" things

    • When you want to do something simple and fun, don't let that voice stop you.
    • You can tell yourself:
      • "It might be a bit silly, but I need this right now."
      • "I'm allowing myself to rest and enjoy."
    • This is an important step to love yourself again and release inner pressure.

    Practice to gradually reduce negative influence

    • Each time you don't "believe" that voice, its influence will diminish.
    • Combine this with journaling or observing your thoughts daily.
    • Gradually, you will feel lighter and less drawn into negative spirals.

    Tip 2: Soothe your inner child to heal

    Step 1: Respect your inner child

    Understand why you shouldn't underestimate your inner feelings

    • On the journey to healing your inner child, many people tend to ignore their feelings, thinking they are "no longer important."
    • In reality, the deepest emotions from childhood still subtly influence how you think and act today.
    • If you continue to ignore them, you risk repeating old patterns without understanding why.

    Recognize that your "inner child" is still present

    • Even though you are an adult, that emotional part still exists and reacts in many situations.
    • For example: feelings of hurt when rejected, or a need for validation.
    • Acknowledging this is an important step to heal emotions realistically.

    Listen to emotions as you would a real child

    • When strong emotions arise, pause and ask yourself:
      • "What do I need?"
      • "What is making me feel this way?"
    • Listen without interrupting or denying—just as you would listen to a child in front of you.
    • This is an effective way to connect with your inner child.

    Avoidance or denial only prolongs the pain

    • When you try to "just get over it," the emotion won't disappear; it will only be suppressed.
    • Over time, it can manifest as stress, imbalance, or overreactions.
    • Therefore, confronting it is necessary to heal your inner child sustainably.

    Practice respecting emotions every day

    • Allow yourself to feel without self-judgment.
    • Take time to acknowledge emotions instead of avoiding them.
    • Remind yourself that your emotions are valid, no matter how big or small.

    Step 2: Accept emotions to heal

    Understand that all emotions have a reason to exist

    • In the process of healing your inner child, you may re-encounter emotions like anger, sadness, or insecurity.
    • These are not problems to eliminate, but signals from within that need to be heard.
    • When you understand this, emotional healing will become gentler and less resistant.

    Allow yourself to feel without suppressing

    • When an emotion arises, pause and acknowledge: "I am feeling this way."
    • There's no need to try to hide or suppress it immediately.
    • This is an important step to truly connect with your inner child.

    Distinguish between "feeling" and "acting"

    • You can feel angry but not necessarily act on that anger.
    • You can be sad but not let sadness control your entire day.
    • This helps you heal your inner child while maintaining balance in life.

    Name and validate emotions

    • Instead of saying "I'm fine," be more specific:
      • "I'm disappointed."
      • "I'm anxious."
    • When you name it correctly, emotions are easier to process rather than being suppressed.

    Allow emotions to pass naturally

    • After acknowledging, allow the emotion to subside over time.
    • You can take deep breaths, go for a gentle walk, or write down your thoughts.
    • No need to hold on, no need to push away – just observe.

    Build a daily practice of acceptance

    • Each time you accept your emotions without judgment, you are creating a safe internal environment.
    • Over time, you will be less swayed by emotions and understand yourself better.
    • This is a solid foundation for your journey to healing your inner child.

    Step 3: Self-nurturing for inner healing

    Understanding "self-nurturing" in healing

    • In the journey of healing your inner child, "self-nurturing" (re-parenting) means you become your own caregiver.
    • You use your current maturity to make up for what was missing in the past.
    • This is a practical way to heal emotions instead of just stopping at awareness.

    Identify unmet needs

    • Ask yourself:
      • "What was I lacking as a child?"
      • "What did I wish someone would do for me?"
    • For example: lack of attention, praise, or a sense of safety.
    • This helps you understand what you need to connect with your inner child.

    Actively compensate with specific actions

    • Turn what was lacking into current actions:
      • If you never had a proper birthday → organize a small celebration for yourself.
      • If you lacked recognition → acknowledge your achievements daily.
    • These actions help heal your inner child in a clear and practical way.

    Practice positive self-talk

    • Instead of waiting for others' validation, tell yourself:
      • "I did a good job."
      • "I have every right to be proud of this."
    • This is how you rebuild a foundation of self-confidence and psychological healing from within.

    Set boundaries to protect yourself

    • Part of "self-nurturing" is knowing when to say "no" to things that harm you.
    • Learn to prioritize your emotional needs.
    • This helps you create a sense of safety – a core factor in the healing process.

    Maintain as a long-term habit

    • You don't need to do anything grand, just repeat small actions every day.
    • Over time, you will clearly feel a change in your thoughts and emotions.
    • This is a sustainable foundation for healing your inner child.

    Step 4: Protect your inner child

    Understand why protecting inner emotions is necessary

    • In the process of healing your inner child, you not only need to listen but also protect this sensitive part.
    • Childhood fears or insecurities may still exist and can be easily triggered.
    • Respecting these limits helps you heal emotions safely, without feeling overwhelmed.

    Respect fears you haven't overcome

    • If you still have a childhood fear (heights, being judged, rejection...), don't force yourself to "be strong immediately."
    • Approach it in small steps, suitable for your current ability.
    • This is how you connect with your inner child through understanding, not coercion.

    Identify situations that trigger negative emotions

    • Notice people or environments that make you:
      • Feel insecure, anxious, or hurt.
      • React more strongly than usual.
    • These reactions are often related to unresolved past experiences.

    Actively avoid toxic environments

    • If a relationship consistently makes you feel bad about yourself, consider limiting contact.
    • Not everyone can understand or respect your process of healing your inner child.
    • Maintaining distance is an act of protection, not avoidance.

    Establish healthy boundaries

    • Learn to say "no" to things that hurt you.
    • Maintain distance from negative words or behaviors.
    • This is an important step to build a sense of safety and sustainable psychological healing.

    Foster a positive environment for yourself

    • Seek out people who make you feel respected and comfortable.
    • Create a living and working space that helps you relax and feel at ease.
    • When your surroundings are positive, the healing process will be faster and more stable.

    Step 5: Arrange your space for healing

    Understand why environment affects emotions

    • Your living space directly impacts your mood and daily behavior.
    • When you actively change your environment, you are naturally supporting the process of healing your inner child.
    • Elements like colors, lighting, and familiar objects can all trigger feelings of safety and joy.

    Create a space that evokes positive memories

    • Place items associated with your childhood in visible locations:
      • Family photos, childhood pictures.
      • Souvenirs, old toys, or meaningful items.
    • These details help you connect with your inner child without much effort.

    Add playful and creative elements to your space

    • Decorate with gentle artwork, bright colors.
    • Arrange a small corner for relaxing, reading, or doing what you enjoy.
    • This is how you rekindle innocence – an important foundation for emotional healing.

    Adjust colors to improve mood

    • Colors can significantly affect emotions:
      • Bright colors boost energy and positivity.
      • Soft colors help relax and reduce stress.
    • You can repaint walls or simply add items with suitable colors.

    Keep your space tidy yet "emotional"

    • Declutter to avoid feeling overwhelmed or stifled.
    • At the same time, keep items with sentimental value.
    • This balance helps you feel both comfortable and connected to yourself.

    Maintain your space as a "safe place"

    • View your home as a place where you can be yourself, without pretending.
    • Regularly refresh small details to stay inspired.
    • This is the foundation for a sustainable process of healing your inner child.

    Tip 3: Rekindle the joy of innocent living

    Step 1: Play hide-and-seek to heal

    Understand the benefits of play in healing

    • Simple activities like playing can help heal your inner child naturally.
    • Hide-and-seek is not just entertainment but also has psychological meaning: the feeling of being found, cared for, and connected.
    • This is how you rekindle innocence – a crucial factor in emotional healing.

    Actively participate in games with others

    • You can play with:
      • Children in the family (your kids, nieces/nephews).
      • Close friends, a comfortable small group.
    • Interaction helps you connect with your inner child through real experience, not just thoughts.

    Experience the feeling of being "found"

    • When playing hide-and-seek, the thrill and then being found creates a very primal joy.
    • This touches on a deep inner need: to be noticed, to be acknowledged.
    • This is an important part of the process of healing your inner child.

    Allow yourself to have fun without forcing it

    • Don't think you're "too old" to play.
    • Participate with a relaxed spirit, no need to be perfect or strictly follow rules.
    • This spontaneity helps you release tension and heal psychologically.

    Turn play into a positive habit

    • You don't need to play often, but maintain similar joyful moments.
    • It could be games, group activities, or anything that genuinely makes you laugh.
    • These experiences help rebalance life and foster positive emotions.

    Step 2: Dance and move to heal

    Understand the benefits of movement in emotional healing

    • Activities like bouncing on a trampoline help release energy and reduce stress quickly.
    • When your body moves freely, you can easily heal your inner child through feelings of joy and uninhibitedness.
    • This is a very effective combination of physical and emotional healing.

    Recreating childhood experiences through movement

    • You can try:
      • Buying or playing on a trampoline
      • Renting an inflatable bounce house, or going to an active play area
    • These activities help you connect with your inner child through actual experience, not just thought.

    Releasing stress through body movement

    • Bouncing helps the body:
      • Reduce accumulated tension
      • Increase feelings of excitement and relief
    • This is a natural way to support psychological healing without requiring too many complex techniques.

    Allow yourself to have uninhibited fun

    • Don't worry about what others think.
    • Enjoy the feeling of freedom, just like when you were a child.
    • This comfort is an important factor in helping to heal your inner child.

    Combine with friends to enhance positive experiences

    • Invite friends or family to join.
    • Create fun, bonding moments.
    • This helps you release emotions and build healthy social connections.

    Maintain physical activity in your life

    • It doesn't have to be a trampoline; you can choose any physical activity you enjoy.
    • The important thing is to maintain fun and a feeling of freedom.
    • This is a long-term way to nurture and heal your inner child.

    Step 3: Draw to heal within

    Understanding the role of creativity in healing

    • Activities like drawing, coloring, or finger painting help you access emotions in a more natural way than words.
    • This is an effective tool to heal your inner child, as emotions are not always easily expressed verbally.
    • Many studies show that drawing helps release and identify hidden emotions.

    Start simply, no skills needed

    • You don't need to draw well; just start:
      • Coloring in books
      • Doodling according to your feelings
      • Using your hands to draw freely (finger painting)
    • The goal is expression, not perfection—this is an effective way of emotional healing.

    Allow emotions to "come out" through images

    • When you draw, inner emotions are transformed into colors and shapes.
    • Sometimes you will understand what you are feeling after completing a drawing.
    • This is a profound way to connect with your inner child without over-analysis.

    Create a personal creative space

    • Prepare a small corner with paper, colored pencils, or a sketchbook.
    • This space should feel comfortable and non-judgmental.
    • This helps you easily maintain the habit of healing your inner child.

    Maintain regularly to see change

    • Spend 10–15 minutes each time, a few times per week.
    • After a while, you will find your emotions more stable and understand yourself better.
    • This is a gentle but sustainable form of psychological healing.

    Step 4: Dance to heal emotions

    Understanding why dancing helps to heal

    • Dancing is a natural way to release tension and connect with emotions.
    • When your body moves to music, you can easily heal your inner child without overthinking.
    • This is a combination of movement and expression – a crucial foundation for emotional healing.

    Create a simple "dance party" space at home

    • You don't need elaborate preparations:
      • Choose a comfortable corner.
      • Put on music and allow yourself to move freely.
    • There's no right or wrong, just what makes you feel comfortable when connecting with your inner child.

    Choose music connected to childhood memories

    • Add songs you listened to as a child to your playlist.
    • Music has a powerful ability to evoke emotions and memories.
    • This helps you touch the deep parts within and supports healing your inner child.

    Dance the way you want, without judgment

    • You don't need to dance beautifully or with perfect technique.
    • Move according to your emotions, to the rhythm you like.
    • This freedom helps you release pressure and heal psychologically naturally.

    Combine joy and growth

    • You can dance alone or with friends and family.
    • This is a way to enjoy yourself while maintaining positive social connections.
    • Helps balance your "inner child" and adult life.

    Maintain as an emotional release habit

    • You can dance for a few minutes each day or whenever you feel stressed.
    • This is a simple but effective method to maintain a positive state.
    • Contributes long-term to the process of healing your inner child.

    Step 5: Free writing to heal within

    Understanding "free writing/drawing"

    • Free writing or drawing is a way for you to temporarily "turn off" rational control so that emotions can flow out naturally.
    • This is an effective method to heal your inner child, as deep emotions don't always follow logic.
    • When uncontrolled, you can easily access your truest thoughts.

    Start without overthinking

    • Prepare paper and pen, and start writing or drawing whatever comes to mind.
    • Don't edit, don't stop to "write well."
    • This helps you connect with your inner child naturally and without pressure.

    Set an intention before starting

    • You can tell yourself:
      • "I allow myself to express all emotions."
      • "There's no right or wrong in what I write/draw."
    • A clear intention helps the process of emotional healing go deeper.

    Use colors to enhance the experience

    • Use colored pens, colored paper, or your favorite colors.
    • Colors help activate emotions and creativity.
    • This is a simple way to make healing your inner child more enjoyable.

    Embrace everything that appears without judgment

    • You might write confusing, unclear things, or strong emotions.
    • Don't try to control or judge.
    • This acceptance is a core element of psychological healing.

    Maintain the habit to unlock emotions

    • Dedicate 5–10 minutes each time, especially when you feel confused or stressed.
    • After a while, you will find yourself understanding yourself better.
    • This is a sustainable way to nurture and heal your inner child.

    Balancing adulthood and the inner child

    Seeing the world through a child's eyes

    • If you have children or young ones around, observe how they play and react to everything.
    • Try to put yourself in that perspective: be more curious, less judgmental.
    • This is a natural way to heal your inner child and rekindle the innocence you once had.

    Turning everyday tasks into fun experiences

    • Even when doing chores or daily tasks, you can still:
      • Play music while cleaning
      • Create small challenges to complete tasks faster
    • When you add an element of "play" to your life, you are connecting with your inner child in a flexible and practical way.

    Choose an environment that encourages spontaneity

    • Avoid people who are always judgmental or think that joy is "childish and unnecessary."
    • These environments easily trigger feelings of suppression.
    • Choosing the right environment helps the process of emotional healing proceed more smoothly.

    Maintain boundaries between play and responsibility

    • Connecting with your "inner child" does not mean neglecting responsibilities.
    • Make sure you still complete your work and personal obligations.
    • This is a crucial factor for balancing and sustainably healing your inner child

    Find the right balance for yourself

    • There is no one-size-fits-all formula – each person will have their own way
    • You can be mature in your actions while maintaining lightness in your emotions
    • This balance helps you live flexibly, not getting stuck at either extreme

    Maintain connection naturally

    • No need to force yourself to "be happy all the time"
    • Just maintain the habit of allowing yourself to relax and enjoy the little things
    • This is a long-term way to nurture and heal your inner child

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    Content editor: Rene Lee Nguyen.

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Tasha Rube, LMSW Master of Social Work

Tasha Rube is a social worker in Kansas, working at the Eisenhower VA Medical Center, having graduated with a Master of Social Work from the University of Missouri in 2014.

Updated on Ngày 16 tháng 07 năm 2026 (GMT +7)

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Có ai như mình không, vừa định ngồi xuống kết nối với đứa trẻ bên trong thì đứa trẻ ấy lại đòi đi mua sắm online? 💸 Chữa lành xong thấy tâm hồn thanh thản hẳn, mỗi tội ví tiền là thấy “vết thương” hơi sâu thôi. Hy vọng sau bài này mình sẽ tìm được cách vỗ về em ấy tiết kiệm hơn! 😌

Bảo Yến ĐặngMar 25, 2026

Đọc xong bài này mình mới ngộ ra bấy lâu nay mình đối xử với “đứa trẻ bên trong” hơi… tệ bạc. 😅 Cứ tưởng em ấy thích làm việc xuyên đêm, ai dè em ấy chỉ muốn đi xích đu với ăn kem thôi. Hèn chi dạo này tâm tính mình cứ như thời tiết, lúc nắng lúc mưa thất thường quá chừng!

an.vibeMar 24, 2026

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